“ If work needs my attention, when reality impinges and pulls me out of sexual preoccupation, I’m
angry. The fear of being found out to be "deviant" devours me.
Anxiety and fear about being closely connected to someone in adult life is the result of these early-life parental misattunements.
I don’t think women easily empathize with the life of unattractive men. Predictably, I didn’t.
I don’t know I can maintain an erection with a woman anymore.
Sometimes, I don’t even engage in pursuing real women,
because I know the result is a painful let down. It dawned on me that all of us, despite walking the same path,
were at different levels of understanding, all rushing forward to find our way before the sun down and trying hard to
stick to the right path. Forensic investigation is getting
much better at finding and tracking down these criminals
but it doesn't stop the crime from being committed. The anxiety of being unable to regulate his inner
life drives sex addicts to run to his only source of comfort and safety, his "Erotic Haze"
where he is shrouded by sexual fantasies, isolation from real-life, and self-soothing.
In What Real Way Will This Affect Your Life? ”